Spontaneous Outside, Ritual-Lover Inside: Wild (impulse) on the outside, Grooming (ritual) on the inside
“Spontaneous Outside, Ritual-Lover Inside” is one of SM Personal Test's gap patterns between your Public face (the play style others see) and your Hidden face (the desire you feel). It describes people who are Wild (impulse) on the outside, Grooming (ritual) on the inside.
What is this pattern?
In public you come across as an impulsive type who runs on mood and momentum, yet when you fantasize alone you burn on slow training: master-slave contracts, nightly reports, control that lasts for weeks. People may see you as a free spirit, while inside you might want every session to start with the same collaring ritual. That quiet attention to ritual is what keeps your energy grounded.
When it tends to show
This side tends to show up when you want contracts, rules and rituals to train something in slowly, such as when you find a partner for the long haul or the date of your next meeting is set.
Tips for living with it
Letting a partner know that rules turn you on keeps you from being thrown by sudden turns. Start by creating one small ritual of your own, such as an opening greeting or putting on a collar.
How it is detected
You fall into this pattern when Pace alone switches from Wild (impulse) in the public face to Grooming (ritual) in the hidden face. We only call it a flip when the estimated probability that the directions truly differ is 75% or higher; the other three axes keep their direction.
